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A\u015fk Nedir?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Sahi a\u015fk nedir?  Hayat\u0131m\u0131za anlam katacak bir kurtar\u0131c\u0131m\u0131, aile kurmak i\u00e7in ilk ad\u0131m m\u0131 yoksa kendimizi tan\u0131ma yolculu\u011fu mu? B\u00fct\u00fcn bunlar\u0131 kapsayan ki\u015fiden ki\u015fiye, toplumdan topluma tan\u0131m\u0131 ve ya\u015fan\u0131\u015f\u0131 farkl\u0131l\u0131k g\u00f6steren bir olgu olmakla birlikte insan hayat\u0131ndaki \u00f6nemi ink\u00e2r edilemeyecek duygu, durum, ili\u015fki, kavram diyelim ba\u015flang\u0131\u00e7 olarak.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

 A\u015fk\u0131n Olu\u015fumu<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

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A\u015fk nas\u0131l olu\u015fur sorusuna \u00e7e\u015fitli yan\u0131tlar verilmektedir. Do\u011fam\u0131zdan kaynakland\u0131\u011f\u0131, sosyal \u00f6r\u00fcnt\u00fclerle olu\u015ftu\u011fu, genetik fakt\u00f6rlerden etkilendi\u011fi \u015feklinde s\u0131ralayabiliriz bunlar\u0131. Bunlar\u0131n hi\u00e7 birini yads\u0131yamad\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z bir ger\u00e7eklik uzam\u0131 daha do\u011fru ve kapsay\u0131c\u0131 demek a\u015fka helal getirmeyecektir zann\u0131mca.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Birini be\u011fenmeyle ba\u015flad\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z a\u015fk yolculu\u011funda, kar\u015f\u0131 cinste arad\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z \u00f6zelliklerin ve tutumlar\u0131n o ki\u015fide var oldu\u011funa inan\u0131r ve onun da duygular\u0131m\u0131za kar\u015f\u0131l\u0131k verece\u011fini, onunla a\u015fk\u0131 doya doya ya\u015fayabilece\u011fimizi belki de ondan \u00e7ocuk sahibi olup onunla bir \u00f6m\u00fcr ge\u00e7irece\u011fimizi umut ederek arzular\u0131m\u0131za ve a\u015fk\u0131m\u0131za kavu\u015faca\u011f\u0131m\u0131z g\u00fcn\u00fc bekleriz. Be\u011fenmeye e\u015flik eden s\u00fcre\u00e7te onun bizim bu arzular\u0131m\u0131za kar\u015f\u0131l\u0131k verecek temel kriterlere sahip olmas\u0131, \u00fcmitlerimizi sa\u011flam bir zemine oturtarak motivasyonumuzu art\u0131r\u0131r. \u00d6rneklemek gerekirse i\u015f g\u00fc\u00e7 sahibi, fiziksel olarak da g\u00fc\u00e7l\u00fc g\u00f6r\u00fcnen bir erkek kad\u0131n i\u00e7in temel kriterleri sa\u011fl\u0131yordur. Be\u011fenmeyle birle\u015fince art\u0131k a\u015fk\u0131n \u00fcmit evresi harekete ge\u00e7ecek ve kar\u015f\u0131 tarafta da yank\u0131 bulursa bir a\u015fka ve ili\u015fkiye d\u00f6n\u00fc\u015febilecektir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

A\u015fkta Kad\u0131n ve Erkekler<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

A\u015fk kavram\u0131 kad\u0131nlar ve erkekler taraf\u0131ndan nas\u0131l deneyimleniyor, nas\u0131l farkl\u0131l\u0131k ta\u015f\u0131yor diye sordu\u011fumuzda, kad\u0131nlar\u0131n ve erkeklerin baz\u0131 fizyolojik farkl\u0131l\u0131klar ta\u015f\u0131d\u0131\u011f\u0131 ger\u00e7e\u011fiyle kar\u015f\u0131 kar\u015f\u0131 kal\u0131yoruz. Kad\u0131nlar s\u0131n\u0131rl\u0131 say\u0131da \u00e7ocuk sahibi olabilirken erkeklerin \u00e7ok say\u0131da kad\u0131n\u0131 d\u00f6lleyerek \u00e7ok say\u0131da \u00e7ocuk sahibi olabilece\u011fi fizyolojik bir olas\u0131l\u0131k var. Bu durum kad\u0131nlar\u0131n \u00e7ocuklar\u0131na daha iyi bakabilece\u011fini d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnd\u00fc\u011f\u00fc erkeklere y\u00f6nelmesine neden olarak daha se\u00e7ici davranmas\u0131n\u0131 sa\u011fl\u0131yor. B\u00f6ylece erkekler \u00e7ok say\u0131da ki\u015fiyle beraber olabilecekken cinselli\u011fi ya\u015fama konusunda bir k\u0131s\u0131t ya\u015far. Erkek kad\u0131n\u0131 a\u015fka ikna etmek zorundad\u0131r da diyebiliriz. Kad\u0131n s\u0131n\u0131rl\u0131 say\u0131da \u00e7ocuk sahibi olaca\u011f\u0131ndan bu \u00e7ocuklar\u0131n olabilecek en iyi se\u00e7imle bak\u0131m\u0131n\u0131n en iyi \u015fekilde yap\u0131lmas\u0131 i\u00e7in \u00e7aba harcar ve onlar\u0131n hayatta kalma \u015fans\u0131n\u0131 artt\u0131r\u0131r. Evrimsel s\u00fcre\u00e7te insan t\u00fcr\u00fcn\u00fcn, neslini devam ettirmesinde bu strateji bir hayli i\u015fe yaram\u0131\u015ft\u0131r. G\u00fcn\u00fcm\u00fcz \u015fartlar\u0131nda cinsel \u00f6zg\u00fcrl\u00fck savunusunun etkisiyle kad\u0131nlar\u0131n da cinselli\u011fi bir ihtiya\u00e7 gibi g\u00f6r\u00fcp ya\u015famak istemesi ve sosyal medyan\u0131n h\u0131zla yay\u0131lmas\u0131 ile erkeklerin cinselli\u011fe kolay ula\u015fmalar\u0131, a\u015fk ili\u015fkilerinin de\u011fi\u015fime u\u011frayaca\u011f\u0131n\u0131n sinyallerini vermektedir. Kad\u0131n\u0131n se\u00e7ici pozisyonun kaybetmesi ve erkelerin a\u015fk\u0131n getirdi\u011fi sorumluluktan ve \u00f6zellikle evlilikten uzakla\u015fmas\u0131 yava\u015f yava\u015f h\u00e2kim ili\u015fki \u015feklini alacak d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcncesindeyim. Zamanla bu de\u011fi\u015fimi daha belirgin g\u00f6rece\u011fiz.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

A\u015fka \u0130li\u015fkin Yakla\u015f\u0131mlar<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

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A\u015fk\u0131 bir\u00e7ok bilim dal\u0131 kendi alan\u0131 a\u00e7\u0131s\u0131ndan i\u015flemi\u015ftir. A\u015fk\u0131n biyolojik yap\u0131s\u0131, psikolojik ve sosyolojik yap\u0131s\u0131, kimyasal yap\u0131s\u0131 incelemelere konu olmu\u015f, farkl\u0131 yakla\u015f\u0131mlarla de\u011ferlendirilmi\u015ftir a\u015fk olgusu.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

1.      <\/strong>A\u015fka Evrimsel Bak\u0131\u015f A\u00e7\u0131s\u0131<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Evrimsel bak\u0131\u015f a\u00e7\u0131s\u0131; a\u015fk\u0131n genlerimizi gelece\u011fe akt\u0131rmak ve neslin devam\u0131n\u0131 sa\u011flamak \u00fczere i\u015flev g\u00f6rd\u00fc\u011f\u00fcn\u00fc anlat\u0131r. \u0130nsan yavrusu do\u011fdu\u011fu andan itibaren uzunca bir s\u00fcre bak\u0131ma muhta\u00e7 durumdad\u0131r. Kad\u0131n\u0131n ve erke\u011fin uzun s\u00fcreli birlikteli\u011fini sa\u011flama g\u00f6revi g\u00f6ren a\u015fk, insan t\u00fcr\u00fcn\u00fcn do\u011fadaki m\u00fccadelesinde \u00f6nemli bir i\u015flev y\u00fcklenmi\u015f olmaktad\u0131r. Kad\u0131n\u0131n do\u011fa ko\u015fullar\u0131nda m\u00fccadele edebilecek, yemek bulabilecek durumu gelmesi iki-\u00fc\u00e7 y\u0131ll\u0131k bir s\u00fcreyi kapsar. Bebe\u011fin yo\u011fun bak\u0131m\u0131 bebek, iki \u00fc\u00e7 ya\u015f\u0131na girdi\u011finde azal\u0131r, anne kendine ve \u00e7ocuklar\u0131na yiyecek bulabilir duruma gelir, bu nedenle a\u015fk\u0131n s\u00fcresinin yakla\u015f\u0131k \u00fc\u00e7 y\u0131l oldu\u011fu d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fclmektedir. Evrimsel s\u00fcre\u00e7le birlikte insan yavrusunun kendine yetebilir seviyeye gelme ya\u015f\u0131 uzam\u0131\u015f ve erkek ile kad\u0131n\u0131n birlikte uzun s\u00fcreli beraberli\u011finin de yap\u0131 ta\u015f\u0131n\u0131 a\u015fk olu\u015fturmaya ba\u015flam\u0131\u015ft\u0131r.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

2.      <\/strong>A\u015fkta N\u00f6rokimyasal Bak\u0131\u015f A\u00e7\u0131s\u0131<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

A\u015fk, bir\u00e7ok hormonun aktivitesiyle geli\u015fen bir duygu durumudur. Oksitosin, dopamin, testesteron, \u00f6strojen, seratonin, sinir b\u00fcy\u00fcme fakt\u00f6r\u00fc,\u00a0norepinefrin,<\/strong>\u00a0vazopressin gibi maddeler a\u015fk duygusunun ya\u015fanmas\u0131n\u0131 sa\u011flayan temel kimyasal maddelerdir. Oksitosin \u00f6zellikle fiziksel ve cinsel yak\u0131nl\u0131k s\u0131ras\u0131nda salg\u0131lanarak ki\u015filer aras\u0131nda duygusal ba\u011f kurulmas\u0131n\u0131 sa\u011flar. Dopamin ki\u015finin partnerini ya da a\u015f\u0131k oldu\u011fu ki\u015fiyi g\u00f6rd\u00fc\u011f\u00fcnde ve onunla payla\u015f\u0131mda bulundu\u011funda keyif almas\u0131n\u0131 ve mutlu olmas\u0131n\u0131 sa\u011flayarak bu duyguyu tekrar ya\u015fama iste\u011fi uyand\u0131r\u0131r ve ki\u015filer bu \u00f6d\u00fcle tekrar kavu\u015fmak i\u00e7in kar\u015f\u0131dakini g\u00f6rmek ve onunla payla\u015f\u0131mda bulunmak isterler.\u00a0\u00a0Testesteron ve \u00f6strojen a\u015f\u0131k olundu\u011fu andaki cinsiyet hormonlar\u0131d\u0131r. Sinir b\u00fcy\u00fcm\u00fc fakt\u00f6r\u00fc a\u015fk\u0131n ilk bir y\u0131l\u0131nda y\u00fcksek seviyelerdeyken sonras\u0131nda kademe kademe d\u00fc\u015fer. A\u015fk\u0131n \u00f6mr\u00fcn\u00fcn s\u0131n\u0131rl\u0131 olmas\u0131n\u0131 a\u00e7\u0131klayan, bu kimyasal\u0131n d\u00fc\u015f\u00fc\u015f\u00fcd\u00fcr diyebiliriz.<\/strong>\u00a0Norepinefrin a\u015f\u0131k oldu\u011fumuzda a\u011fz\u0131m\u0131z\u0131n kurudu\u011fu, kalp at\u0131\u015flar\u0131m\u0131z\u0131n h\u0131zland\u0131\u011f\u0131 bir durumla kar\u015f\u0131 kar\u015f\u0131ya b\u0131rak\u0131r bizi. Seratonin ise a\u015f\u0131k oldu\u011fumuz insan\u0131\u00a0s\u00fcrekli d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnmemizi, hayal etmemizi, g\u00f6rmek ve payla\u015f\u0131mda bulunmak i\u00e7in \u00e7aba harcamam\u0131z\u0131 sa\u011flar. A\u015fk\u0131m\u0131z\u0131n s\u00fcresi boyunca saplant\u0131l\u0131 bir \u015fekilde, a\u015f\u0131k oldu\u011fumuz ki\u015fiyle yatar, onunla kalkar\u0131z.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

3.      <\/strong>A\u015fka Sosyolojik Bak\u0131\u015f A\u00e7\u0131s\u0131<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Sosyologlar a\u015fk\u0131n ya\u015fad\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z sosyal \u00e7evre i\u00e7inde \u00f6\u011frenilen bir olgu oldu\u011funu savunurlar. \u0130zledi\u011fimiz filmeler, okudu\u011fumuz romanlar, ailemizden, arkada\u015flar\u0131m\u0131zdan ald\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z bildirimler bizim a\u015fk\u0131 ya\u015fama tarz\u0131m\u0131za etki eder. Bir toplumda a\u015fk\u0131n ya\u015fanma bi\u00e7imlerinin d\u00f6nemsel farkl\u0131l\u0131klar g\u00f6stermesi, ayn\u0131 d\u00f6nemde farkl\u0131 toplumlarda farkl\u0131 a\u015fk ya\u015fama pratiklerinin olmas\u0131, a\u015fk\u0131n \u00f6\u011frenme s\u00fcre\u00e7leriyle ilgili bir yan\u0131n oldu\u011funu g\u00f6stermektedir. G\u00fcn\u00fcm\u00fczden yirmi y\u0131l \u00f6ncesine gitti\u011fimizde a\u015fk tan\u0131mlar\u0131n\u0131n, a\u015fktan beklentilerin, a\u015fk\u0131n ya\u015fanma bi\u00e7iminin farkl\u0131 oldu\u011funu g\u00f6zlemleriz. Dizilerde, filmlerde ve edebiyatta da bu zamansal ve mek\u00e2nsal de\u011fi\u015fimleri g\u00f6rebiliriz.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

4.      <\/strong>A\u015fkta Psikoloji Bak\u0131\u015f A\u00e7\u0131s\u0131<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Ba\u011flanma kuramc\u0131lar\u0131 bireylerin anne babalar\u0131na ba\u011flanma bi\u00e7emleri ile a\u015fk\u0131n ya\u015fanma bi\u00e7imlerinin benzerlik g\u00f6sterdi\u011fini ifade etmektedirler.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

G\u00fcvenli ba\u011flanan bir birey anne ve babas\u0131yla kurdu\u011fu g\u00fcvenli ba\u011flanma ili\u015fkisini a\u015fk ili\u015fkisine aktarabilirken g\u00fcvensiz ba\u011flanan bireyler de a\u015fk ili\u015fkisinde g\u00fcvensiz bir a\u015fk ili\u015fkisini devam ettirmektedirler. G\u00fcvensiz ba\u011flanma sitillerine bakt\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131zda; kayg\u0131l\u0131 ba\u011flanan bireyler a\u015fk ili\u015fkisinde kaybetme korkusu ya\u015fayarak partnerinin onu terk etmemesi i\u00e7in yo\u011fun \u00e7aba harcamaktad\u0131r. Ka\u00e7\u0131ngan ba\u011flanan bireyler ili\u015fkide sevilmeyeceklerine dair inan\u00e7lar\u0131 nedeniyle uzak ve mesafeli davranmakta bazen de ili\u015fkiden uzak durmay\u0131 ye\u011flemektedir.\u00a0\u00a0\u00c7ocuklu\u011funda ilk bak\u0131m verenler taraf\u0131nda istismara u\u011frayan bireyler da\u011f\u0131n\u0131k ve korkulu ba\u011flanma ya\u015fayarak partnerinin onu sevmeyece\u011finden korkmakta ve tutars\u0131z davran\u0131\u015flar sergilemektedir. \u0130lk bak\u0131m vereniyle g\u00fcvenli ili\u015fkiyi kuramayan ki\u015filer romantik ili\u015fkilerinde ciddi sorunlar ya\u015famakta ve doyumlu bir ili\u015fkiden mahrum kalmaktad\u0131r ne yaz\u0131k ki.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

A\u015fk\u0131n Bile\u015fenleri<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

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1.      <\/strong>Kendini a\u00e7ma<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

A\u015f\u0131klar; birbirinin hayat\u0131n\u0131, ge\u00e7mi\u015fini, hik\u00e2yesini, neleri sevip sevmedi\u011fini, onun i\u00e7in nelerin \u00f6nemli oldu\u011funu, hayat\u0131ndaki de\u011ferleri merak ederler ve zaman i\u00e7inde ad\u0131m ad\u0131m -bazen h\u0131zl\u0131 da olabilir, \u00e7\u00fcnk\u00fc her ili\u015fkinin do\u011fas\u0131 birbirinde farkl\u0131d\u0131r \u2013 birbirlerine kendilerini a\u00e7arlar. Elde edile bu bilgiler belirsizli\u011fi y\u0131kar ve g\u00fcven duygusunu in\u015fa eder. A\u015fk\u0131n ivmesinin azald\u0131\u011f\u0131, yani hormonlar\u0131n etkisinin azald\u0131\u011f\u0131 s\u00fcre\u00e7te ili\u015fkinin \u00fcstene basaca\u011f\u0131 temellerden biri olan g\u00fcven olu\u015fmu\u015f, sevginin g\u00fcvenli limanlar\u0131na demirlemek zaman\u0131 gelmi\u015ftir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

2.      <\/strong>A\u015fk ve empati<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

A\u015fk i\u00e7erisinde ki\u015filer birbirlerini anlayarak, birbirlerini d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnerek, birbirleri i\u00e7in iyi eylemler sergileyerek anla\u015f\u0131lma ihtiya\u00e7lar\u0131n\u0131 kar\u015f\u0131layarak aradaki ba\u011f\u0131 da g\u00fc\u00e7lendirmi\u015f olurlar. Empati ki\u015filer aras\u0131ndaki sevgi ba\u011f\u0131n\u0131 g\u00fc\u00e7lendirir ve ili\u015fkinin uzun s\u00fcreli olmas\u0131na katk\u0131 sa\u011flar. Ki\u015filerin ya\u015fad\u0131klar\u0131 bu durum onlara kendilerini de\u011ferli hissettirir, tatmin ve g\u00fcven duygusu ya\u015fat\u0131r.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

3.      <\/strong>Yaln\u0131zl\u0131k ve a\u015fk<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u0130nsanlar anla\u015f\u0131lmak isterler di\u011fer insanlar taraf\u0131ndan. Kar\u015f\u0131 cinsten \u00f6zel biri taraf\u0131ndan \u00f6zel bir de\u011fer g\u00f6rmek ve biricikli\u011finin tasdik edilmesi, insanlar i\u00e7in \u00f6zel bir \u00f6nem ta\u015f\u0131r. Hayat\u0131m\u0131zda bunu sa\u011flayan biri olmad\u0131\u011f\u0131nda kendimizi yaln\u0131z hissetmeye ba\u015flar\u0131z ve ruhumuz bu yaln\u0131zl\u0131\u011f\u0131 sonland\u0131racak birini \u00f6zlemeye, aramaya ba\u015flar. A\u015f\u0131k oldu\u011fumuzda ruhumuz nihayet kendisine yaln\u0131zl\u0131\u011f\u0131 unutturmu\u015ftur. E\u011fer i\u015fler yolunda gider ve a\u015fk\u0131m\u0131z huzurlu bir ili\u015fkiye d\u00f6n\u00fc\u015f\u00fcrse art\u0131k yaln\u0131z biri de\u011filizdir. Bu demek de\u011fil ki hi\u00e7 yaln\u0131z hissetmeyece\u011fiz; genel halimiz yaln\u0131zl\u0131k olmayacakt\u0131r art\u0131k. \u0130li\u015fkide \u00e7at\u0131\u015ft\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z ve anla\u015f\u0131lmad\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z zamanlarda yaln\u0131z hissedebiliriz ve iyi ki dostlar\u0131m\u0131z var.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

4.      <\/strong>Tutku ve cinsellik<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

A\u015fk deyince tutkudan bahsetmemek olmaz. A\u015fk\u0131n b\u00fcy\u00fcl\u00fc bir par\u00e7as\u0131 olan tutku, kar\u015f\u0131dakine duyulan cinsel iste\u011fin yo\u011funlu\u011funu anlat\u0131r. Tutkunun varl\u0131\u011f\u0131, a\u015fk\u0131n daha yo\u011fun bir duygu seli olarak ya\u015fanmas\u0131n\u0131 sa\u011flar. Karn\u0131m\u0131zda u\u00e7u\u015fan kelebekler, kuruyan dilimiz dama\u011f\u0131m\u0131z, h\u0131zl\u0131 h\u0131zl\u0131 \u00e7arpan kalbimiz, bu yo\u011fun arzunun tatmin edilme ihtimalinin sonu\u00e7lar\u0131d\u0131r son kertede. Hormonlar\u0131m\u0131z delirmi\u015ftir adeta. Hayattaki di\u011fer \u015feyler \u00f6nemini kaybetmi\u015f, hayat a\u015f\u0131k oldu\u011fumuz ki\u015finin siluetine ve renklerine b\u00fcr\u00fcnm\u00fc\u015ft\u00fcr. Bu hal epeyce bir s\u00fcre bizi esir al\u0131rken vuslat\u0131n hayaliyle sarho\u015f oluruz. Vuslat an\u0131 geldi\u011finde zaman ve mek\u00e2n hi\u00e7le\u015fir ve inan\u0131lmaz bir deneyim ger\u00e7ekle\u015fir, a\u015f\u0131k da ma\u015fuk da sonsuz bir tutku denizinde y\u00fczer ve huzura do\u011fru yelken a\u00e7ar. Vuslat an\u0131n gelmemesi ise yo\u011fun bir h\u00fcz\u00fcn ya\u015fat\u0131r. Hasretin uzamas\u0131 yava\u015f yava\u015f a\u015fk\u0131n yerini kedere, keder de a\u015fk\u0131n biti\u015fine b\u0131rak\u0131r.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

5.      <\/strong>A\u015fk ve \u00e7at\u0131\u015fma<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

A\u015fk ili\u015fkisi, ba\u015flang\u0131\u00e7ta kar\u015f\u0131dakinin \u00e7ok anlay\u0131\u015fla kar\u015f\u0131land\u0131\u011f\u0131 bir s\u00fcrecin ard\u0131nda ki\u015filerin zamanla farkl\u0131l\u0131klar\u0131n\u0131n ortaya \u00e7\u0131kt\u0131\u011f\u0131 bir d\u00f6nemle kuvvetini s\u0131namak zorunda kal\u0131r. Farkl\u0131l\u0131klar\u0131n yaratt\u0131\u011f\u0131 \u00e7at\u0131\u015fmalar iki taraf\u0131 da memnun edecek bir minval ve d\u00fczeyde \u00e7\u00f6z\u00fcl\u00fcrse a\u015f\u0131klar ba\u011f kurma ve sevgi ili\u015fkisine ad\u0131m atarlar. Art\u0131k uzun ve huzurlu bir ili\u015fki ya\u015faman\u0131n \u00f6n\u00fcndeki en \u00f6nemli engellerden biri a\u015f\u0131lm\u0131\u015ft\u0131r. Yap\u0131c\u0131 bir tart\u0131\u015fma ve \u00e7at\u0131\u015fma s\u00fcrecinin sa\u011flad\u0131\u011f\u0131 bir ili\u015fkidir bu. Amma tart\u0131\u015fmalar bazen de y\u0131k\u0131c\u0131 olabilir ve y\u0131k\u0131c\u0131 tart\u0131\u015fmalar seyir de\u011fi\u015ftirmez ve s\u00fcreklilik arz ederse ili\u015fkinin biti\u015f sirenleri \u00e7almaya ba\u015flam\u0131\u015flar.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

A\u015fk bizim i\u00e7in hayat\u0131m\u0131zda bir ve birka\u00e7 kez ya\u015fayabilece\u011fimiz \u00f6zel ve arzulanas\u0131 bir duygu. A\u015fk bizi bir yolculu\u011fu \u00e7\u0131kar\u0131r. Kimimiz bu yolculukta kendimizi tan\u0131r, kimimiz yeni bir hayata ad\u0131m atar. Kimi\u00a0\u00a0zaman sonucunda h\u00fcsran da ya\u015fayabiliriz. Ya\u015fad\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z her a\u015fk deneyimi bizi olgunla\u015ft\u0131r\u0131r ve \u00f6nceki benimize yeni \u015feyler ilave eder. Sonucu ne olursa olsun a\u015fk\u0131n hayat\u0131m\u0131zdaki yeri ve \u00f6nemi baki.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Hayat\u0131n\u0131za g\u00fczel ve iyi \u015feyler katacak bir a\u015fk dile\u011fi ile.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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